Reframing to Thoughts of Gratitude

James just got into trouble in the bathroom and I sat there passively watching him. That’s where my mom motivation is at the moment. My mind wants to go to a place of criticism for not disciplining James as well as other mom’s, and questioning why I even let him get into the bathroom in the first place, I could have easily shut the door and prevented the whole scene. James is a walking tornado these days, or so I like to call him. His mom on the other hand is a total neat freak that is challenged by the constant mess in our apartment. That’s just the beginning of the mindset shift I need to make. Hence the title of this post, reframing to thoughts of gratitude.

I wish I could express gratefulness in ALL moments of my life, because as Josiah says to me when I’m down in the dumps “there’s always something to be grateful for”. And he’s totally right! I just get sucked into these negative spirals and comparison traps and completely lose sight of the blessings. Last week I wrote an post titled “How I’m Really Feeling” and expressed some raw feelings including our desire to have another baby. Let’s reframe for a second and acknowledge what a huge blessing James is in our lives. Even if we were never able to have a second baby we would still be content and overflowing with joy and love for James.

Motherhood has been a challenge, but in the moments of tears and clutter and loneliness and repetition I am incredibly grateful to be home with James, sharing his whole life with him and watching him grow.

Marriage has been a challenge as well, but in the moments of anger and resentment and doubt I am grateful for a husband who stands by my side and lifts me up when I am down on the ground ready to give up.

Life itself is a challenge, but in all moments I am grateful to have a God that hears my prayers and answers them, who has blessed me with the most loving and supportive family and friends, who has brought me out of my darkest moments, and loves me unconditionally. If your hope lies in Jesus, there is no amount of darkness in your life that can’t be overcome by His magnificent light. And if that’s not something to be grateful for, I don’t know what is. Praise God!

Question of the day: What is one thing you’re feeling grateful for today?

Have a lovely Wednesday everyone!


Hi I'm Rae and I am a pastor's wife and mom to our one year old son James. I recently started blogging as a way to share my recovery journey from an eating disorder, as well as married life, motherhood, food, and faith. Hop along for the ride, I’m glad you’re here!

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