Letting Go of a Friendship

Hello! How’s everyone doing this morning? Did your week get off to a good start? We are on the slow recovery train over here. As I mentioned yesterday, James and I are still faced with lingering cold symptoms. Yuck. Things are definitely improving each day, but I don’t have patience for colds in the summer. Having a cold in the winter makes more sense to me, it’s still not fun though.

I (very unexpectedly) ran into an old friend of mine the other day, and this week I am focused on letting go of that friendship. It feels like something I need to do in order to thrive in my current life. My husband preached a sermon the other day from the book of Philippians and the theme that stood out to me the most was making sure that your rearview mirror is not larger than your windshield. And that’s exactly what I need to do in this moment.

Philippians 3:13-14 “…But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”

It really comes down to a choice between following God, or following whatever confusing feelings I am faced with and I am not going to make the wrong decision this time. I am going to follow God. Reflecting back, in times when I have followed my own intuition or desires, I carry a lot of regret and disappointment. But in all of the times that I follow Christ, I feel secure, He has never led me astray.

Letting go of friendship is not easy, especially if you are the type of person (like me) who is a people pleaser and wants to be friends with everyone. I have had friendships fizzle out, and I’ve lost touch with good friends over the years, but I have never intentionally made the decision to move on. This is new for me, but a lot of things have been new for me lately and God has carried me through.

It is tempting to hold on to this friendship, but when I turn to God, I hear what He is telling me. Yesterday, one of the verses I read in my Bible study was 1 Corinthians 10:13 and it could not have been more perfectly timed.

1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide a way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”

All of that to say, this unexpected hiccup that I didn’t even realize needed to be addressed is now at the forefront of my life, and I need to get past it. But with God, I can. And so can you!

I hope you have a great Tuesday friends!


Hi I'm Rae and I am a pastor's wife and mom to our one year old son James. I recently started blogging as a way to share my recovery journey from an eating disorder, as well as married life, motherhood, food, and faith. Hop along for the ride, I’m glad you’re here!

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